Today I’m delving into a topic that resonates with each and every one of us: grief. In my own life, it has been ongoing with losses beginning as a young child onward, and obviously, on a regular basis talking with others that are dealing with their own significant losses.
It is a subject that holds great depth and significance, yet often goes unexplored. So, take a moment to center yourself, for we are about to embark on a journey of understanding.
Grief, is not a fleeting occurrence that vanishes overnight; rather, it is a process that requires time, patience, and immense self-care.
When we experience loss, whether it be the departure of a cherished loved-one, the end of a relationship, or the severing of a professional tie, it strikes at the core of our being. We find ourselves enveloped in a profound sense of loss, confusion, and heartache.
Grief refuses to be bound by the constraints of schedules or expectations. It is complex, non-linear journey, and unique to each of us. One day, progress may be palpable, while the next, it may seem as though we will never feel normal again. We eventually realize that there will be a new normal.
Grief is a reflection of the love we have in our hearts. It of course hurts, but without love couldn’t exist. There is no right or wrong way to experience it; we each find our own path to healing. Giving ourselves grace and compassion, we can begin to navigate the waves as they arrive.
One of the most challenging aspects of grief is its cyclical nature. Just as we begin to believe we are on the mend, a fleeting memory, a familiar melody, or even a scent can send us back into the depths of raw emotion. It feels frustrating and at times, and utterly bewildering. It is all part of the delicate process of creating that new normal.
So now, the question arises: How do we do this?! There is no singular answer that fits all, but I am here to offer some ideas:
1. Allow yourself to feel: It is tempting to suppress the intensity of our emotions, “Fake it till you make it.” does not apply here. Trust me, I tried that one and failed. It is crucial to embrace the full spectrum of feelings. Shed tears, release the weight upon your chest, and honor the pain. It’s in acknowledging the feelings that we can heal them. Yeah, we can’t walk around it, and we have to allow them to know what they are.
2. Seek support: Do not bear the weight of your burden alone. Seek solace in the embrace of your support system. Reach out to compassionate friends, understanding family members, or even seek guidance from a trusted therapist or counselor. Their presence and attentive listening can offer great comfort and guidance during this challenging time
3. Nurture your soul: Grief takes a toll on our entire being, encompassing our mental, emotional, and physical. It becomes imperative, then, to prioritize self-care. Rest, your spirit needs it! Nourish your body with great food, and engage in activities that bring peace, joy and happiness. It is not an act of selfishness, but an act of profound self-love.
4. Embrace the ebb and flow: Remember, that grief does not adhere to a linear path. It ebbs and flows like the tides, carrying us through moments of profound sorrow. Allow yourself the space to grieve, scream, yell, cry into a pillow — to heal, and to find solace in the rhythm of life.
5. Celebrate the memories: Write down every memory as it arises. Our memories fade, I am beyond grateful I did this. it is vital to remember the love and connection that transcends physical presence. Share stories, reminisce through old photographs, create a heartfelt tribute that keeps their spirit alive. They may have transitioned beyond the veil, but their essence lives on in the tapestry of your heart.
6. Know that those on the, “other-side” are not grieving us on the same way: The other-side is a place of complete peace, indescribable love. Those there are able to witness us and our lives. They are not missing out on the party! In many ways they are more with us, and able to assist us than ever before.
Let’s be gentle with ourselves and extend compassion to others who are grieving. And since we know that we all have losses, that is everyone! Know that healing takes time, there is no rush, and there is no destination. Embrace the journey, it is through the depths of sorrow that we emerge stronger, wiser, and more resilient.
Find solace in your support system, strength in nurturing your soul, and peace in the ebb and flow of grief’s tides. Remember that you are never alone on this sacred journey of healing. The universe is filled with others (people along with animal companions) that surround and support you every step of the way.
In your moments of sadness, remember the power of self-care. Nurture your soul with gentle practices that uplift and soothe your spirit. Engage in meditation, connect with nature, or immerse yourself in creative expression: paint, dance, decorate, listen to or play music. Allow these moments to replenish your energy, pull you away, and bring you closer to finding inner peace.
As you navigate, embrace the lessons. Each wave of emotion carries with it an opportunity for growth. Allow yourself to evolve, your understanding of life’s mysteries. Grief has a way of deepening our connection to the spiritual realm, offering glimpses of the eternal nature of the soul.
Please remember to shower yourself with love and compassion. Be patient with yourself and honor the progress you make, no matter how small it may seem. Healing is a life-long mosaic of moments that will slowly piece together a renewed sense of wholeness. Life will pull you away to focus on other things. There should never be guilt over not grieving.
In your interactions with others who are grieving, maybe offer them a gentle presence, and a listening ear. Sometimes all they need is someone who can hold space for their pain without judgment. Simply let them know that they are not alone in their journey.
Finally, remember that grief is is a reminder of the deep connections we have made and the impact we have made on one another’s lives. Pain may be overwhelming at times, it is a testament to the profound beauty of the human experience.
Trust that, in time you’ll find a new sense of lightness.
With love and blessings,
Katie